How a Mom's Stretched-Out Headband Was Proof Her Daughter Saw What She Couldn'tGet the Full StoryLike many moms, Brea Schmidt hasn't always loved the reflection she saw in the mirror - the one of her makeup-free face with a boring stretchy headband pulling back the hair she didn't have time to style. But she had no idea that very headband carried an entirely different meaning to her 5-year-old daughter.
During a seemingly innocuous conversation about princesses, it all became clear to Brea. She wrote on Facebook:
My daughter: Mommy, who are your favorite princesses?
Me: I really like Belle, and then Ariel second.
Her: I like Elsa, Anna and Belle. And then Moana, Rapunzel and Sofia.
Me: Thats a lot of princesses!
Her: You know who my favorite queen is?
Her: You. You're my favorite queen.
"Maybe she thought this headband I always wear to keep my hair out of my face while I do 'all the things' was actually a crown," the blogger behind The Thinking Branch wrote. She then thought she should start looking at it that way as well, as a form of much-needed, rarely achieved self-care.
"Because wouldn't my soul feel a lot different if I stopped looking at my head-banded self in the mirror as 'that mom' who isn't putting enough into her appearance - and instead see 'that mom' whose kids see her as their queen. And one who should remember to treat herself like one too," she wrote.