People can't stop wondering if Selena Gomez reacted to Justin Bieber's engagement but everyone's concern is unnecessary and sexist

Get the Full StoryJustin Bieber recently announced his engagement to Hailey Baldwin.

This took many by surprise, especially considering Bieber's long history with Selena Gomez.

Much of the surprise, however, has crossed over into invasive speculation and unnecessary concern for Gomez's wellbeing.

Gomez is being inserted into a narrative she didn't ask to be a part of.

This is a trend with female celebrities whose exes move on — largely because our society has difficulty recognizing that a woman can be happy alone and, in particular, without a man.

Where were you when you found out Justin Bieber got engaged? Correction: Where were you when you found out Justin Bieber got engaged to someone who is not Selena Gomez? I was minding my own business on the subway while mindlessly scrolling through Instagram. Suddenly, my thumb stopped and hovered over Bieber's Instagram post where he referred to his 21-year-old fianc e Hailey Baldwin as the "love of his life." I immediately sent the post to a handful of friends writing, "Truly speechless." My best friend wrote back, "Doesn't that make you sad for Selena?" My response? "10000000 ."

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Bieb's early music served as the soundtrack to my teen years. Who didn't listen to "One Time" on repeat while wondering how we got so #blessed with this shaggy-haired heartthrob? OK — maybe a lot of people, but I wasn't one of them. I fully embraced the pop star who quickly became every teenage girl's dream guy, including a very famous one: Selena Gomez. So, yeah, when I found out Bieber was marrying Baldwin instead of Gomez, I couldn't help but feel bad for Sel. She clearly has a lot of love for her on-again, off-again ex. But isn't it a bit sexist to feel bad for a wildly successful woman just because her ex-boyfriend is marrying another woman? Why does she have to lose just because he wins?See the rest of the story at Business InsiderNOW WATCH: A diehard Mac user switches to PCSee Also:8 cringeworthy statues of famous people that look nothing like themMillions of people have watched this video of a lemon rolling down a hill and it's oddly captivating10 signs someone is about to break up with you

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